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An Average Education for a Non-Average Child

An Average Education for a Non-Average Child

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sort of pissy stare
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Oh, I'm not going to like Luke's headmistress, I can feel it already. This is the third time I've spoken with her (the fifth, if you include phone conversations aimed at arranging two of our three meetings), and today she suggested that Luke be evaluated for autism. How precicesly does one explain to a woman who has devoted her life to the education of average children that not all non-average children suffer from some sort of defect or disorder?

I am fully aware that many of Luke's particular eccentricities might lead an educator to search for some sort of educated explanation. However, in this particular case, it is not any disorder within Luke, but rather the abnormal circumstances of his existence which lead to the clear difference between his intellectual intelligence and curiosity and his social and emotional development. I can't explain this to the headmistress, of course. Even if she were inclined to believe me (which I doubt), it would put the lot of us in a rather difficult and potentially dangerous situation of precisely the sort I hope to avoid for Luke.

The false history I've created for this sort of conversation was repeated again-- homeschooling, little opportunity for social interaction, brilliant but hidden and sheltered from the world in such a way that the customs and norms of behavior most of us learned in childhood were never absorbed. Every time the story is repeated, it seems to stretch the limits of credulity just that much more, and I fear those limits will eventually snap.

Today should serve as a lesson to me, and I must do my best to avoid any and all dealings with the administration of the children's school in the future.

There is, of course, the option of specialized institutions able to provide a more intimate and individualized learning environment. I'm unwilling to consider this to be a true option at the moment, I feel very strongly that Luke would benefit more from the ability to attend school with his only friend and a group of relatively average children. I feel it would encourage and at times force a bit more integration into normal society, thus allowing him to choose what to do with his life. I refuse to limit his opportunities or permit them to be dictated by the constraints of knowledge and secrecy demanded by a life devoted to the sort of work I engage in.

No, it's far too soon to consider subjecting him to a special education environment, thus further separating him from those who he will have to eventually accept as his peers.

I can only hope I'm making the right decision.

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